Whats Behind Curtain One?

Often I will create choices for My girl rather than just forbid or insist. Dont get Me wrong, I am so not above just forbiding or insisting and sometimes that is what is required. But, I also think that the presentation of a choice can occasionally be a good idea. Sometimes instead of saying "you cant do that to the thing with the thing on it ever!" I think its better to say "sure you can do that to thing with the thing on it, but if you do this will happen."

An example:

My girl likes to playfully swat or pinch Me sometimes. I could have just outright forbidden this behavior (on the grounds you dont hit the Dom!) and punish it if I needed to. Instead I chose to tell My girl, that she could playfully swat or pinch Me, but if she did so, I would immeadately stop what we were doing and return the favor at what I consider 2x as hard. I am not a good judge of what 2x harder feels like either and I always err on the side of much much harder. I think if you ask My girl 2x as hard is prob closer to 10x as hard but hey who is complaining right? So now she has the choice, she can be a brat and accept the known consequences if she is feeling brave or she can play it safe. Either way, I feel like I win.

Another example:

A few days ago, in the afternoon, I got My girl all worked up and close and begging permission to cum. I denied her permission and told her later that night if she was good, I would consider allowing it. That night I instructed her that she could either: 1. put the nipple clamps on herself for Me and give them a few good tugs (Very scary prospect for My girl) or 2. be denied permission to orgasm for an extended period of time. Choices, choices. She chose to inflict the pain of the clamps on herself for Me. Very pleasing.


So I think its about sometimes letting My girl know the punishment, ahead of time before I have to enforce it. This creates a situation where she either does what I want or essentially volunteers for the punishment. And really... who am I to refuse a volunteer? I also think choices can occasionally create a dilemma for My girl in trying to figure out "what does Daddy really want?". Forcing My girl to think about what most pleases Me is a dilemma I can live with.